You Can’t Make A Person Change
Mark Manson with another of his long essays. This time it’s about change and how you can’t make anyone change. This is profoundly insightful and so, so me.
You can’t make somebody change. You can inspire them to change. You can educate them towards change. You can support them in their change.
But you can’t make them change.
That’s because making someone do something, even if it’s for their own good, requires either coercion or manipulation. It requires intervening in their life in a way that is a boundary violation, and it will therefore damage the relationship—in some cases more than it helps.
Personally, I need to make some serious changes. No one can make them for me.