Michael Wade asks a good question
What is your default mode?
Is it positive or negative? Does it tend to blame others or does it foster personal accountability? Is it quick to anger or is it less volatile? Is it universal and consistent or do you easily make exceptions for yourself or your allies? Is it feelings-based or thought-based? Does it promote self-discipline or self-indulgence?
The nature of your default mode is one of the most important influences in life and yet many people do not examine their mode.
My advice is to know it well.
This is good advice I definitely need to take.