James Whatley puts out a newsletter I dig called FIVE THINGS ON FRIDAY. In his most recent one, he added a bit at the end that I thought was pretty cool.
[perfectpullquote align=”full” bordertop=”false” cite=”” link=”” color=”” class=”” size=”17″]Three mantras to take away with you this week. Each one I apply to different parts of my work/life, at various times. Each one, bizarrely, coming up this week in different conversations.1. Try to move towards things, not away from things.2. Try to make decisions on what you want to do tomorrow (not on what happened yesterday).3. Pursue great work, with inspiring people.If in doubt, ever, look around you — everyone else is getting on with their lives and focusing on their own thing. Focus on yours. Move forward.And KEEP GOING.[/perfectpullquote]
With number one, I do try to move toward things in my life. I’ve been given some amazing opportunities and have tried to do my best to take advantage. Part of that is not looking backward. The line also reminds me of a James Clear blog post entitled, Move Towards the Next Thing, Not Away From the Last Thing.
As for number two, I’m terrible at this. I worry about too much about past mistakes in decision making and not learning from them. It paralyzes me at times.
The goal for me in making better decisions is to forget making the perfect decision and just make a choice. If it’s an error, correct as soon as possible.
One of the ideas is to unconsciously listen to yourself regarding a decision. Unfortunately, my intuition is wacked-out. My gut reactions are more often than not the wrong choice. I don’t think things through as clearly as I should. My wife calls this anticipatory thinking. She makes excellent decisions because she goes through the anticipated results of a variety of choices. She does this unconsciously and incredibly fast. I am in awe of her when she does this.
I’m also a worrier. Like, big time worrier. One of my goals in life is to let go of worry and just choose.
Inspiring people and pursuing great work sounds so aspirational as to be nearly wishful thinking. Still, I want to do great work. I want this bit of writing to be great. I’d like to think sharing the three mantras might inspire you, dear reader. I don’t know though and likely will never know unless you comment below.
Lastly, he talks about focus. One of the things I’ve noticed as I’ve grown older and (hopefully) wiser is when people have lost focus. Actually, seeing people actively not giving their entire focus on a presentation, meeting, or one-on-one makes me angry.
I admire laser-like focus. It is a quality I see in a lot of successful people and one I hope to emulate on a regular basis.
These three mantras hit me at an important time in my life. I need to look forward, make good decisions, do great work, focus and keep going. If you’re reading this, I bet you do too.